“What do you need in the New Year? You need a dream; your dream needs an action; and your action needs right thinking! Without right thinking, you can have only unrealised dreams!” Mehmet Murat ildan
It’s that time of year again where everyone re-evaluates their life and tries to make changes for the better… 2018 was my year of travel and I feel that was mission accomplished! I don’t know what my aim is going to be in 2019… For now, I’m trying to focus on my career as I have a big appraisal coming up and need to work out my long term goals.
Last year was a bit of a weird one for me. I found the start of the year really tough, as whatever happened, I knew that I wasn’t going to see my Mum. I hadn’t expected that as I couldn’t wait for 2017 to be over. I started bereavement counselling in May, which did help but it also made me feel worse for a few hours or even days, depending on what I’d spoken about. I hadn’t realised just how hard I was finding everything until the Summer, which led to me going part-time.
Part-time life really suits me! It gave me the opportunity to catch up on sleep, look after myself better, time to think and of course, more opportunities for travel! I am now in a much better place and am shortly going back to full time hours again.
But I didn’t blog as often as I wanted – I realised that if I didn’t feel excited about sharing my experiences, I didn’t have the motivation to write. Then the things I did want to blog about, I couldn’t as I didn’t think I should when I hadn’t written about everything chronologically as it didn’t seem to be honest. Who knows how the blog will go this year – I’ve never really had a set aim or idea for it but enjoyed blogging when I worked abroad.
Fitness also fell by the wayside and I don’t feel good about myself as a consequence. Both frustrated by my lack of effort and sluggish from bad habits. But with a couple of family weddings coming up, that’s as good a motivation as any to become more body confident!
I read recently that the reason most new years resolutions fail is because people are too strict on themselves and that a better approach may be to use 150 days… So 150 days of the year where you do something i.e. no alcohol, exercise etc. That could actually work!
I’ve just spent a lovely weekend up North, with my Mum’s side of the family, as it was my aunt’s 60th birthday. Oh and how she loves to celebrate! My sister and I travelled up on her birthday and arrived to a full house with champagne flowing and piles of wonderful presents scattered in every free space! One of my cousins had made a personalised scrap book filled with fantastic photos through the years and little quotes – the changing hairstyles had us all tickled!
On Friday, my aunt treated all the nieces to a spa day- blissful! All nine of us had two treatments and we were able to hire out the whole spa just for us. As an added bonus, we were allowed to bring in our own bubbly. I opted for a back message which was AMAZING and an eye remedy, which was like a mini facial and then cool stones around the eyes. I can’t say my bags are any smaller but it was very relaxing! The time absolutely flew by – I had planned to go for a swim but before I knew it, we’d been there for 7 hours and it was time to go… At least we were all able to make full use of the Jacuzzi, sauna and steam room. Girly time is the best and we think this may well have been the first time it was just the girl cousins, without brothers, partners etc
We were absolutely exhausted so it was an early night after a day of relaxation so it was an early night all around! On Saturday, I went over to see my cousins gorgeous new flat and he cooked us a fantastic dinner of sirloin beef and dauphinoise potatoes with vegetables. The spoiling continued!
I stayed with my 92 year old Nan on Saturday night – she is one of the most incredible women you could ever meet, with some fantastic stories including her attempt to run away back home after she was evacuated during the war. I’m trying to treasure every moment I spend with her and ask her to tell me all the stories I’ve heard many times before in the hope that i’ll remember them in the way she tells them.
All in all, I had a fabulous weekend with a few of my nearest and dearest. I come from a big family and loved having so many cousins when I was growing up but we live quite a distance from the majority so don’t get to spend as much time with them as I would like. Perhaps I should add prioritising family to my list of new year resolutions?